Kids and Love

Here’s a few random thoughts / life events that have happened the past few months, in a recap format:

You know that your child loves you, when they tell you that they are going to be sad for 2 days because no one will be here to cuddle with you. (They are your biggest cuddler).

You know you’re teaching your child right when they want to open doors for you, kiss on you, hug you, tell them they are thankful for you, and want to snuggle close as often as possible.

You know that you are on thin ice with your kid, when you take away electronic devices… they tell you daily that they don’t like you, call you a liar, threaten to not do school work, or love you anymore.

I took the electronics away for some very good reasons. There was a case of some fraudulent charges on my DEBIT card early in the week. There was an attempt to purchase an i-phone 13 through AT&T in TX, and finally, I received a random “gift” of a Webcam from a random address. All of these things are pretty crazy, creepy, and demand action be taken.

I had to get the kids to have a reset anyway, because they have become addicted to the gaming, so much. My youngest would sneak time on his device after being tucked into bed. He would sleep in class until 10am! Of course, I am thinking what is this? I would never see any evidence in his room, that he had his computer in there with him. I was beginning to think he had a sleeping disorder. I took him to the doctor. They have ordered one for him, but I am still waiting on that call. In the meantime, it is confirmed, that he is truly sneaking his computer. ugh! So.. I just simply came home from work one day, so mad. I loaded all the electronics into the car, and took them off the property, so they could not even sneak them anymore. NO temptation. We’re only a few days in, so we’re still in the “I’m mad at you” stage. But, they did get their legos out, and started building towns and things again. I will not complain about stepping on legos! lol

In other news, my oldest is still making it to school everyday, seems to be doing ok. My only goal for her this year, is for her to make it through 11th grade. My girl has been struggling so hard with depression and extreme anxiety. It has taken several adjustments to medications to get her to where she is today. We still aren’t where we need to be ideally, but it’s progress. She’s making it.

My 13 year old wants to go to summer camp again this year, so there are some qualifications she must meet in order to attend. One of those, is 20 hours of community service. We typically volunteer to foster a cat for 2 weeks, so she can get that full credit. She is fully responsible for caring for the cat, during this time. She has been doing pretty good, but I am so fearful to let the kitty roam the full house, so we have her in the den downstairs because it’s hardwood flooring. I covered the couches with sheets, and there’s a door that slides and locks. So, that has been working really well. However, the past couple of days, I have found accidents on the floor. Our 2 weeks is up, and it’s time to return her to the “zoo.” So, we are making arrangements for tomorrow evening. The kitty is super loving, but we just cannot have a kitty cat here to keep. We can only sign up for fostering. I am just worn out from this one though. At least we are doing our part in socializing the kitty, loving on her, and getting her ready for her forever home.

As a parent, I do what I do to hopefully guide my children, in a way, that helps make them into strong, motivated, selfless, and honest individuals. These are characteristics I believe I have in myself, and hope they can identify that in me.

Until they grow up, I can only do my best, hoping it’s enough. Not stressing about tomorrow, because that’s outside of my control.