How do you handle the intense feelings that you might get when one of your kids is absolutely pushing you to insanity?
I am having to constantly defend myself, in a battle. 10 year old vs MOM. I feel so beat up, and I just want to be heard, understood, respected, and we move on to the next thing.
But, no.. this particular kid of mine, who argues til the cows come home, wants to push every single button I have, and then finds others I didn’t know I had. For REAL! I try my hardest to explain myself, my reasonings, and it goes unheard. He has a very extreme one-track mind. I try to be patient, but that only lasts one millisecond.
The latest discussion revolves around the beloved video games, and the new, reduced time allotted, implemented by none other than MOM. He absolutely refuses to accept this new rule. He tells me that he doesn’t like this new way I’m raising them. He says he will refuse to do school work now, because I am taking away his video game time. hahaha.. I don’t think so.
He tells me this isn’t China, and I can’t make this type of rule. hmmmmm..
He tells me my idea is idiotic.
I get angry, bitter, and start to talk loudly about my position on this decision.
I want them to understand that video game time is not a right. It’s strictly a privilege and reward for doing the things they need to do first.
There is no understanding this..
In the meantime, the drives to school are heated discussions, and I will continue to keep my cool, as much as possible, but man, I wish I could pull over and make him walk some days.. lol
He forgot his backpack today, and I was ever so kind and drove back home to get it for him. He text me from the school bathroom, telling me he really needs his lunch box for snack time, and lunch. He can’t stand the school lunches. I did tell him that next time he forgets any items, it’s on him, and he will need to face the consequences the entire day without the item. He didn’t understand that one either.. sigh..
My late former mother-in-law used to say, the days are long, but the years are short.
It’s soooo true!!
embracing these moments, as when they grow up, the house will be empty, quiet, bare, and lonely.
I don’t know what lonely feels like most days, but I can feel it.. I can picture it. I don’t like the thought of them leaving me, and never wanting to be part of my life when they grow up..
So.. I have to keep a connection with them. loving, caring, nurturing, but firm in consequence, accountability, and life lessons.
it’s hard, but worth it in the end..
Hanging on for dear life over here… by a thread… a very, very, very, tiny thread..
All in a Day 