It’s often hard take a little time to just breathe to try and catch up with yourself when you’re constantly in demand and on the go.
Last night for example, was just horrible.
Everything was going great until 5:15 when I got home. It was a night that would consist of Karate for both Adam & Allie, and then grabbing a birthday card for Oma, pick up a quick dinner for both of them, and then back home for showers and bedtime rituals.
I agreed to let both Autumn & Austin stay at home, but told them they would need to make their own dinner, and listed off items they could easily make for themselves.
I also told them no electronics and no sugar.
This was a huge trust “test” and it would be a 3 hour period basically.
We get to karate, Adam complains that he wants to quit. Allie is complaining that her leg hurts. We go inside karate, and the A/C is out. Immediately, Allie says she’s not going to do it. It smells horribly in there, and her leg hurts. omg.. Adam finally gets in there and does his thing with no problem. I do make Allie sit inside and watch her class for 10 minutes. Then, we head out.
We get home around 8:15 and neither Austin or Autumn have eaten, they even asked me what I brought them for dinner.. WHAT?? I was so mad.. I was mad at them, but truth be told, I was mad at myself. I set myself up for failure. It seemed easier at the time, if they didn’t want to tag along with us to karate, they were finished with their homework, they agreed to hang out and not be on electronics, etc.. why wouldn’t I do that? Well, here’s why.. they both ended up lying to me, and got on their devices, they didn’t eat dinner, and it was super frustrating. It was bedtime at this point.
The bedtime ritual typically takes 30 minutes, if everyone needs showers, etc, which was the case last night. fun times..
AND I didn’t have energy to make the lunches the night before, or fold laundry, or empty the dishwasher. I was DONE!
So, this morning, when I go to wake up kids, 2 of them decide it’s not important to come up and have breakfast in time, so I decided it wasn’t important to make them home lunches. They went to school very sad today, because they love home lunches.
Maybe next time, they will wake up on time 🙂
I’ve GOT to figure out how to get the upper hand on all things with them, and not be such a pushover, or get so frustrated when things don’t exactly go as my mind has planned that they should.
Expectations are important, and I don’t intend on lowering them. Maybe just allowing more time to have them met is the key?
I do intend to take a time out, as Autumn pointed out last night, I really need..
I do love my children, and our life together. Challenges are part of the process, but that’s what makes us stronger, and able to achieve and conquer.
All in a Day 