Yesterday, as I was picking up the kids from the RAC, a counselor came over to my car, and had 2 papers in his hand. Both write-ups for the boys, saying the exact same thing. They were up to trouble, yet again. They had apparently been putting small pieces of something into the water fountain, and they have been busted 3 times now. 1 of the times, they actually broke it, and it had to be fixed. They have been warned multiple times, yet they keep doing these things. Their consequence now has been to serve time reading, instead of having fun during “centers.” So, I told them they needed to bring a book to read, but they refused. I told them, ok, then you will just get to sit there while everyone else is doing fun activities.
On the way home, both boys were whining how they didn’t mean to do these things. It wasn’t their fault. It was somebody else’s because they told them to do these things. I told them, no… you are responsible for you. No one else makes you do anything. You have a brain, you know what is wrong and right. You are in control of your hands and actions. No one else. With that, you are also responsible for the consequences that come from those actions. No one else. Austin said, you tell us this thousands of times. I said, yeah, but you don’t seem to HEAR me. So, I am repeating myself once again.
Today, when I dropped them off, I made sure to have the counselor separate them into different color groups. We’ll see how today goes….
Skipping over to Autumn now.. last night was OMG!!
I had arranged to pick up some free moving boxes in Bentonville. According to the GPS, it was going to be 16 mins there, 16 mins back. Total of 36 minutes, including the time to load the boxes.
I asked who wanted to go with me, and Adam was the only one who wanted to go. Fine.. So, I left Allie in charges of Austin & Autumn, which has NEVER been an issue in the past.
Tonight was different, and I don’t know why.
They had built a fort a few days ago in the living room. I told them it needed to be put away while I was gone, and Autumn needed to clean her room.
When we returned, Austin had moved the fort into his room… not what I said to do.
Autumn had taken a black marker and wrote all over Austin & Adam’s bedroom door.. something about a big FAT poop and an emoji of poo.. omg! I lost it! I also discovered that she wrote on my ceramic coasters over the positive sayings on them. The marks didn’t come out of those, as I made her try to clean them. She also had to clean off the door. I was so upset. I told her I didn’t want to see her face the rest of the night. She needed to brush her teeth and go to bed straight away.
Well, then I said.. wait.. you need to unload the dishwasher first. So, she did that, but was mouthy as can be. Said she is not my slave, and I explained what a slave was.. she kept on being sassy, so I told her, if she kept it up, this would be her chore for the remainder of the month.
She was also very unruly this morning when it was time to get up. I finally had to threaten to disassemble her “house” bed tonight, and she would be sleeping on the mattress only. That motivated her to get up, but geez..
What am I going to do with these children?
I’m breathing, crying, angry, puzzled, and soooo beyond ready for good days to come.
All in a Day 