Over the weekend, I received a text from the kids’ counselor, letting me know that he thought of a book that might be beneficial for me to check out in regards to the behaviors I have been dealing with lately.
I immediately ordered it on Amazon, and it arrived yesterday.
Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children With Severe Behaviors -Heather T. Forbes
I have only started the book, but 3 chapters in, I’ve learned so much about myself, and the way these children operate. They don’t intentionally act in manipulative ways, or get defiant with me just because they want to start an argument. In reality, there is a lot of fear in them, and they are acting out of fear. It’s my duty to show them love and this will help them feel safe, and in turn, act in love.
In my daily routine, it’s chaos.. stress.. loads of responsibility.. gotta keep that schedule, and stay on task. Any little thing that disrupts that, sends me into crazy mommy mode.
So, I know what I need to work on, and it’s helpful that this book also discusses the children and medication… I was one of many out there, who believe these professionals, who claim your child needs to be on medication to solve the problems.. when in reality, it’s only putting a bandaid on the problems, and treating the symptoms.. not getting down to the root of the problem.
I really hope this book will help me parent better, get less stressed over things I cannot control, understand my children better, and truly be able to LOVE and enjoy them at each stage in life.
Life is hard, but parenting doesn’t have to be. right??
We just need the right tools, that help us to be the best us that we can be.
I’m always open to trying different methods, but I am realizing that medication is not the answer for my 8 year old, who is struggling at school with anxiety. We can work through it together. It WILL get better.
Austin actually read aloud to me last night. He refused for the first 30 minutes of trying to convince him, but eventually he gave in, and he read. He is an amazing reader. We are going to try to make this a nightly habit… in addition to everything else we have going on.. But, you must make things intentional, or it won’t happen.
Adam received Student of the week in his classroom. AND he hasn’t pooped his pants in 2 days.. His 7th birthday is tomorrow, and I told him he could have his chromebook back then, if he doesn’t poop his pants.. fingers crossed..
Autumn is trying to do better with her homework, so that’s a win too.
Nothing to report on Allie. she’s always doing as she should… 🙂
All in a Day 